Heart-led Living.


My Story…

I’ve always known ‘deep down’ that my career path would be of my own making, but it took me about 18 years to take the leap from office job to self-employment. What held me back? The only barrier to leaping was me, my limiting beliefs. Anais Nin said, “And the day came, when the risk it took to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”  It was my time to blossom.

Fortunately, I had built up a landing platform to leap onto. I had become a certified coach and so I launched my practice. I worked hard and studied all of the business and marketing approaches. When I wasn’t constantly “doing,” I was looking at what others were doing and thought: ‘I can do that too. If they’re doing it, why can’t I?’ Then I tried to do exactly what they were doing or have done and I wondered why I wasn’t getting the same results.

It took me some time to understand. It isn’t about adopting a “can do” attitude, and taking on all the personal development mumbo jumbo that others successful coaches and business people are spouting. Of course you can’t just mimic successful people! Their success isn’t about what they do, it’s about who they are. You can’t do what they do, because you’re not them. You have to do what You do. You have to listen to Your Own instincts. It’s about Being Authentic. To do that, you need to own your shit. Your fears. Your vulnerabilities. Your dreams and hopes and visions. Confess your bullshit—be transparent.



By taking time to discover my true self — not the one others told me I needed to be — I found the missing piece to my whole entrepreneurial adventure. For me, becoming who I am, the kind of person who will go out and make the world a better place while making a living doing it, comes through self-discovery and self-development.

The symbol representing this understanding is the lotus flower, so delicate, sitting on the water. Below the surface are its roots submerged firmly in mud. We are like this flower. We have roots and mud that hold us in place, even though they are hidden from sight. Sometimes, to be fully ourselves, we have to be willing to go into the mud and see what's down there, what’s the dirty truth. That mud is what also nourishes us, what helps us to grow.

When you know who you are that deeply and strongly, no one can ever again pull you off-center. They can try, you may even fall, but you will very quickly get back up again and stand firm in the belief that you have your own back. You know better than anyone else what you want and need to do. Someone else could know you really well. They could have 100% belief in you. But even they can’t know what you need to do. Only You can know that.

Knowing your life purpose ties it all together. Some of us need to dive deeply into self-discovery to know beyond a doubt what we are here for, but you can only know your purpose when you know who you are. It’s so easy to say, “You can do anything you set your mind to.”

The truth is, you do best what you put your heart into. Not your mind. It’s all in the heart. When the heart is heard, the mind will follow. Let your heart lead. It’s the only way.

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