Out of stillness flows infinity
Here’s what I know is true. It’s tiring to continually absorb, taking in new information. Everyday it bombards you. Look at me! Listen to me! Learn about me! it says. No.
Purge, let go. Trust in yourself.
I’m often envious of people who live what appear to be simplified lives. They’ve gotten rid of all the surplus, of what’s unnecessary. Cleaned up their act. Simplified their surroundings. They have just a few worthwhile activities or hobbies at a time. They are able to say no.
How about in the next weeks, with the spring coming just around the corner, you give yourself permission to say no. No more collecting. No more looking outside yourself for answers. Of course, there will always be things that come through, how can it not? But you don’t need to seek them out. You can either allow them in or say no. Enough. Get down to basics.
I went on a retreat last year and that is what it allowed me to do. I found the gold nugget inside myself, the nugget of wisdom I know lives there. KNOW YOURSELF. How can you know yourself when you keep seeking answers outside yourself? When you keep allowing distractions into your life?
It isn’t easy. It can take days, maybe weeks before the intention turns into practice. When I try, it can take sometimes months for my mind to adjust to this new way of being. I still allow in the noise, the distractions, the breaks in solitude and reflection. I appreciate the people I meet and have conversations with, but I often find myself wishing: I want to be alone now. Turn off email entirely. Avoid Facebook. Keep the TV off.
In fact, as I told a friend the other day, I decided to not check my email for 5 days. I simply had to break free. To know that I could and that my life wouldn’t fall apart as a result. (It didn’t.) I also asked my husband for a break from TV in the evenings. We were able to stick to it for 2 days. A good start and we can always try again.
James and Claudia Altucher wrote a book called “The Power of No,” and it has this quote:
“Each No eliminates a cage. Each level of No… sets us free. As humans, we are all entitled to find that freedom, whatever form it takes. Whatever form we want it to take.”
Giving yourself a retreat, even if it’s an ‘at home’ retreat, is an act of self kindness. We owe it to ourselves to give ourselves time to be alone in order to move forward, in order to design our true paths.