Last week I had the opportunity to present to two different groups of people.
The first was a group of business women who are part of a networking group tied to my local Chamber of Commerce. Three other coaches and I joined together to share with these women the power of coaching.
I shared my story of how I felt I had lost my identity in my thirties and had begun the journey of getting to know myself better. I truly believe that if you don’t know who you are, you can’t know where you’re going. This life lesson has helped me to establish a coaching practice that dives deep into what makes each person unique, to find their strengths, passions and purpose in life.
The second was a 50+ job seekers networking group and the session was on re-inventing yourself and finding a new career path. I was one of 4 people on a panel who shared their story about how they tried something completely new and different later in life.
After I found myself again and began to appreciate who I was, I was let go from the job I’d had for ten years. In hindsight, this was the best thing that could have happened to me. I had just finished up my coach training to become a certified life coach and I was newly married (for two years, which to me felt new).
The job hadn’t been satisfying for a long time and I had a ridiculous commute. In the last year, I experienced psychosomatic problems due the stress I was under. Unexplained stomach aches drove me to the emergency room, but I was physically healthy. The universe was definitely bopping me on the head.
So there I was, literally starting over from scratch.
I thought at the time that, since I knew what I wanted to be doing, I’d quickly land on my feet. That didn’t happen as quickly as I expected. Starting a business, in this case a coaching practice, takes time. It also confronts you with yourself. After a year, I realized that I was trying to do this work the way others had done it and I was feeling frustrated and was not seeing the results I wanted.
Over the winter of 2017/18, I decided to step back and do some deep reflection. This helped me in so many ways. I still want to coach, but I realized I have other passions and inclinations that I want to combine alongside coaching. I’m still figuring out what this will look like. It will tie together my love of self-discovery, journaling, writing and coaching.
I believe that life is too short to be doing something that you don’t absolutely love doing. We are blessed to live in a time when we’re living longer and longer. One person in the panel for the 50+ job seekers group was in his sixties when he changed from a career as a postal worker to become a fitness instructor running his own fitness business. I was impressed with how well he has been doing, and his deep passion for helping us, as we age, to prevent falls and other physical challenges.
As the above quote says: It’s never too late to start over.
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