We approach this problem of uncertainty backwards. Rather than place a small goal before ourselves and then figure out if we need any information or resources to complete that goal, we learn about EVERYTHING. Just in case, we should need any of that information at some later point. When we listen to what others know, we're deciding to let them set our agenda, rather than sticking with our own. Well, they say to do this.
Self-discovery is how you begin to understand yourself and your place in the world. Knowing yourself provides a sense of wholeness, which increases your confidence. You stand stronger in your shows when you value and embrace your strengths as well as your weaknesses. You are more able to say no to what doesn’t match your values and say yes to what does.
Who gets to decide that you are likable? If you want to do something, who makes the rules about whether it is right or not right? Even if (or especially if) what you are doing is an expression of who you are, especially if it comes from the heart, from an authentic place, why care if someone likes or doesn’t like what you did or what you like?
I really like this TED talk by JP Sears, a life coach who uses humor in much of his material. The message, which is to be weird by being yourself, is deliberately impertinent. He makes a point that provokes and sticks a finger in the eye of our inner demons. For me, they are my perfectionist, my pleaser and my hermit.
Knowing your life purpose is big. When you have this one figured out, the littler ones take care of themselves. But if you are unclear about your purpose, other things become more difficult. If you don’t have this one defined, you will struggle with the littler ones, feeling uncertainty and a lack of direction.In a few weeks it will be 2018. Moving into the coming year with a clearly defined life purpose will change the whole way the year unfolds for you. So this is the time to get clear.
What do you do with the lessons you learned? Do you share them with a loved one? Do you incorporate them in your life? Annie Dillard says that the "impulse to keep to yourself what you have learned is not only shameful, it is destructive. Anything you do not give freely and abundantly becomes lost to you." I agree. If you're keeping what you have learned inside without sharing, not only does it become lost to you, it also becomes lost to others.